(English translation at the bottom)
今天播放音樂組合 Secret Garden 的 'Always There' 時，我也跟著歌手 Russell Watson 唱起來。
Secret Garden's song
Always There
歌詞中文意譯
《總有你同在》
當黑暗籠罩，我找不到出路。
當我看不清楚，總是跌跌撞撞，
我便倚靠你，你令我堅強，
當我失敗時，你伸出手來扶持我。
當我最需要你，便有你陪着我，
對我不離不棄，
你照亮我的生命 -
你總是如此......總與我同在。
當我遇上挫折，陷於絕境時，
你與我並肩，支持着我。
或許我是你的負擔，
伸出雙手揹起我，
當我最需要你，便有你陪着我，
對我不離不棄，
你照亮我的生命 -
你總會如此......總與我同在。
填詞人 Brendan Graham，
也許是有基督教或天主教信仰的，
因為從歌詞可見，是帶有信仰的意念。
他填的詞 'You raise me up'，
一曲成名，
在香港也受歡迎，
與 Always There 有異曲同工之效。
但我不願意好像卡拉OK那種形式，只有我獨唱，
於是我便在播放原曲時伴唱，並用手機錄了音。
我是唱給妹妹聽的。
早前為了鼓勵妹妹發展唱歌的基因，
我唱了 'Moonlight Flower' 給她聽，
她便鼓勵我多做這種活動。
由於今天和她談及依附理論，
所以我便想給她聽這歌。
自從三年前閱讀了崗田尊司依附理論的書（備註1, 2）之後，
我便常常思考以下問題：
1. 如果一個人未能/沒有和其他人建立安全依附（secure attachment ）的關係，是否可以由上主取代？
2. 世上真的有人可以和我們建立完全的安全依附關係嗎？
以往當我聽 'Always There' 這首歌時，
就不禁想起，
歌詞中的「你」，不會是人，
就算母親或至愛的人，
也難以有歌詞裡描述的那種關係，
因為只有主耶穌，
才是我們最安全穩定的依靠。
沒有人能夠取代主在我們心中的地位。
人總有限制，
如果期望有人可以讓自己無時無刻安全地依靠，
有一天總會失望。
備註：
English translation
When I played Secret Garden's CD and listened to the song 'Always There' today, I sang along with Russell Watson.
Always There lyrics
When I'm less than I should be,
When I just can't face the day,
When darkness falls around me,
And I just can't find my way.
When my eyes don't clearly see,
And I stumble through it all,
You I lean upon, you keep me strong,
And you rise me when I fall.
CHORUS:
You are there when I most need you,
You are there so constantly,
You come shining through - you always do...
You are always there for me.
When life brings me to my knees,
When my back's against the wall,
You are standing there right with me,
Just to keep me standing tall.
Though a burden I may be,
You don't weary, you don't rest,
You are reaching out to carry me,
And I know I'm heaven-blest.
(CHORUS 2x)
You are there when I most need you,
You are there so constantly,
You come shining through - you always do...
You are always there for me.
Brendan Graham wrote this lyrics in 2005, and he might believe in Christianity. His song 'You Raise Me Up' has made him famous. Many people in Hong Kong know this song, and 'Always There' has a similar theme.
As I didn't want to sing by myself, I sang along when I listened to the song and made a recording by my smartphone.
I sang for my sister. Earlier on, I had sung 'Moonlight Flower' to her, hoping to encourage her to develop her singing genes, and she encouraged me to do more such activities. As I have mentioned Attachment Theory to her recently, I thought of introducing this song to her.
Since I have read a book about attachment theory three years ago, two questions have come up :
1. If a person can't develop secure attachment with another person, can this be replaced by Jesus Christ ?
2. Is there really anyone we can securely attached to throughout our life?
In the past, when I listened to Secret Garden's song 'Always There', I wonder if the 'you' in the lyrics is a human being. For even our mother or our most loved one can't really give us such a level of relationship, because only Jesus can give us such a fully secured support. No one can replace Jesus in our heart. If you expect someone to do so, you'd feel disappointed one day.
Remarks:
'Attachment' is not invented by psychologists, it's an inborn need by nature in mammals.
According to psychologists, everyone needs to build a secure attachment with parents, especially babies in the first 6 months. If we can't have such a secure attachment at this stage, the effects would be lifelong.
The attachment relationship between a child and its parents is also the Creator's design of a family. But many modern parents both work and leave the child in other people's care, seems like anybody can take up the role. But in reality, others cannot replace the role of parents in the attachment relationship.
The lack of secure attachment creates the feeling of loss, like a hole in your heart which can't be filled up. Only by developing a secure attachment relationship with the Lord can this hole be filled up.
Recently, I saw a child monkey, which had lost its mother, clinging tightly to a soft toy in a TV documentary. It considered the soft toy as its mother and this touched my heart. This is an evidence that attachment is a need by nature.
Russell Watson's 'Always There':
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